Going your whole pregnancy knowing your boyfriend/husband may not be the father, yet still leading him on is one of the most emotionally abusive things you can do to someone.
My roommate in college was in a similar situation. Ended up dating a friend from freshman year and within a couple months of dating, she found out she was pregnant.
While finished his degree after taking a year off, he ended up flying himself across the country to be there for his daughter’s birth in the middle of the fall. That entire fall semester, he worked his ass off getting a job for after graduation, maintaining his grades, and keeping an on campus job. About a month after he got back from spending time with his girlfriend and daughter, he got a letter breaking down the paternity test showing that he virtually no genetic connection to the child.
After that, he basically shut down for the next few months; stopped going to class, stopped leaving the apartment, stopped hanging out with friends, and basically stopped living his life. He was more broken down than I had seen anyone up to that point in my life.
To make matters worse, he had to sue to have his last name taken off the child’s birth certificate because the girlfriend’s mother insisted they use his last name.
This happened to me about six years ago. Soon after our little girl came home from six months in the NICU (1 1/2 lb. preemie), my ex ran off with a guy from her work. I chalked her odd behavior up to post partem depression, and hospital trauma. We shared custody, 4 nights a week I was a single father, trying to ween her off her feeding tube. That little baby was my only sunshine, my pride and joy. 5 months later my ex told me the truth, without a shred of remorse. Since we were never married, attorneys said i had no rights to her. I had to let her go. Devastation, and strangely, embarrassment took over. I got off facebook ( all my friends were new parents as well), stopped talking to everyone I knew, and tried building a new life. I heard through others she grew up healthy, that's all I needed to know. I have never seen even a picture of her, nor would I want to, it's strange that way. I don't think about it that much anymore, but the further away from it I get, the clearer I can see the effect it has had on my mind. The worst aspect will always be watching my parents lose their only grandchild. I can forgive my ex for everything else, but not that. I'm so sorry to anyone out there who has gone through something similar. You are not alone, and your heart will heal over time.
registertheboss on September 9th, 2019 at 20:14 UTC »
Imagine being that horrible of a human being
uatuba on September 9th, 2019 at 21:39 UTC »
My roommate in college was in a similar situation. Ended up dating a friend from freshman year and within a couple months of dating, she found out she was pregnant.
While finished his degree after taking a year off, he ended up flying himself across the country to be there for his daughter’s birth in the middle of the fall. That entire fall semester, he worked his ass off getting a job for after graduation, maintaining his grades, and keeping an on campus job. About a month after he got back from spending time with his girlfriend and daughter, he got a letter breaking down the paternity test showing that he virtually no genetic connection to the child.
After that, he basically shut down for the next few months; stopped going to class, stopped leaving the apartment, stopped hanging out with friends, and basically stopped living his life. He was more broken down than I had seen anyone up to that point in my life.
To make matters worse, he had to sue to have his last name taken off the child’s birth certificate because the girlfriend’s mother insisted they use his last name.
boogalooshrimp82 on September 10th, 2019 at 02:16 UTC »
This happened to me about six years ago. Soon after our little girl came home from six months in the NICU (1 1/2 lb. preemie), my ex ran off with a guy from her work. I chalked her odd behavior up to post partem depression, and hospital trauma. We shared custody, 4 nights a week I was a single father, trying to ween her off her feeding tube. That little baby was my only sunshine, my pride and joy. 5 months later my ex told me the truth, without a shred of remorse. Since we were never married, attorneys said i had no rights to her. I had to let her go. Devastation, and strangely, embarrassment took over. I got off facebook ( all my friends were new parents as well), stopped talking to everyone I knew, and tried building a new life. I heard through others she grew up healthy, that's all I needed to know. I have never seen even a picture of her, nor would I want to, it's strange that way. I don't think about it that much anymore, but the further away from it I get, the clearer I can see the effect it has had on my mind. The worst aspect will always be watching my parents lose their only grandchild. I can forgive my ex for everything else, but not that. I'm so sorry to anyone out there who has gone through something similar. You are not alone, and your heart will heal over time.