This is why I can’t stand gatekeeping what is and isn’t a family. Sure, the couple next door might call their “fur baby” family because they like dogs, but you don’t want to be the asshole who told the woman with cervical cancer she’s not a real mother.
Using a throwaway for this one but this really hit home for me because over the last few years I've had this real yearning to have a child and enjoy the gift of motherhood. When I went to have myself checked though, it was found out that I was infertile and of course I was heartbroken, but ultimately not too bummed out because I was always aware that adoption was avaliable and that didn't bother me. When I told my mom that that was what I was planning to do in the future however, she hit me with the "well, it won't be your real child, though" and you can imagine how that felt.
She's been constantly reminding me of how adoption is terrible too and it's driving me crazy, basically banging on about how mentally ill they'll be and how problematic they'll be compared to said "real" child. Sadly thanks to her though, I now know exactly how this lady feels. It fucking sucks to be told that your dream family isn't "good enough". Mom, you'll never get to experience the joys of my family, and frankly I'm glad I turned out infertile because I'd never want your genes to be passed on yet again.
Bellyzardd on May 29th, 2019 at 03:02 UTC »
This is why I can’t stand gatekeeping what is and isn’t a family. Sure, the couple next door might call their “fur baby” family because they like dogs, but you don’t want to be the asshole who told the woman with cervical cancer she’s not a real mother.
SexThePeasants on May 29th, 2019 at 04:32 UTC »
Well, this genuinely upset me.
throwaway3840283 on May 29th, 2019 at 08:38 UTC »
Using a throwaway for this one but this really hit home for me because over the last few years I've had this real yearning to have a child and enjoy the gift of motherhood. When I went to have myself checked though, it was found out that I was infertile and of course I was heartbroken, but ultimately not too bummed out because I was always aware that adoption was avaliable and that didn't bother me. When I told my mom that that was what I was planning to do in the future however, she hit me with the "well, it won't be your real child, though" and you can imagine how that felt.
She's been constantly reminding me of how adoption is terrible too and it's driving me crazy, basically banging on about how mentally ill they'll be and how problematic they'll be compared to said "real" child. Sadly thanks to her though, I now know exactly how this lady feels. It fucking sucks to be told that your dream family isn't "good enough". Mom, you'll never get to experience the joys of my family, and frankly I'm glad I turned out infertile because I'd never want your genes to be passed on yet again.
Sorry, needed to get that out there.