Tonight when my husband got home from work he informed me he wants a divorce and will be leaving until it's done. This is not a huge surprise honestly, ever since our daughter was born we've just not been getting along. What is a surprise is it's suddenness.
I've been a stay at home mom since our daughter was born two years ago, it just didn't make sense to work and spend 90% of what I made on day-care.
So in talking to him before he was finished packing he told me "Good luck with the mortgage and bills, I've taken MY money out of our bank account and turned off your card on MY credit". I would say I was shocked, but I really am not. He's very mean when he's angry and never has seemed to connect with his daughter, he wanted a boy and from the day we got the word we were having a daughter he's been distant.
I obviously need an attorney, I logged into our bank account sure enough it's at $5. What resources can I begin looking into to get an attorney for free to help at least make him pay the bills and food until I can find childcare and a job? Is there anything I can do myself with the courts that is semi quick to at least have him pay for the necessities since he cleaned out our joint account or at least money for an attorney? I understand it's all "his" money but we are married with a child. I don't see how he can just leave us with nothing all of the sudden.
I'm in Wisconsin, I've tried to Google up the best could since the little one went to sleep but I can't find what I'm looking for or even really know what I'm looking for. Thanks for anyone who helps
ozech on November 16th, 2018 at 09:27 UTC »
OP said part of the reason why he did it is that "he wanted a son". What an asshole.
where_are_your_shoes on November 16th, 2018 at 08:59 UTC »
I don’t understand how he thinks he can stick her with the mortgage. Presumably his name is on it, do they really think the bank will let him go and only go after his wife?
I’m wondering if he’s going to try and go off the grid/into hiding. He can’t entirely if he took all their money with him, there’s always going to be some electronic trail for investigators to follow.
tsudonimh on November 16th, 2018 at 08:40 UTC »
I love imagining the look on his lawyers face when the STBX informs him of his actions.
Lawyer: "You told your wife you were divorcing her, emptied your joint bank accounts, informed her that the mortgage and bills were her responsibility, then left her and your toddler penniless. Is that right?
Idiot STBX: "Yup."
Lawyer (through the imagined expression): "I'm going to tell you all the ways you have fucked yourself. The only good thing about this situation is that I bill hourly."