We talked to the teacher and principal. They have been less than helpful to say the least.
There has been some back and forth via emails and visiting the school and the principal has been mostly hands off and the teacher has retaliated against our daughter.
I don't think the the specifics are super important but in the end we asked "perhaps seating be rearranged". The teacher decided to announce to the class that our daughter was "afraid" of the boy and moved her to a desk next to her desk. Like, literally next to hers, facing the rest of the class. My daughter is mortified and has said she will never tell us about anything ever again. My daughter is "safe" but at what cost? Have we taught our girl that reporting sexual is assault is not worth it? We've destroyed her trust in us and the school/teacher. The vindictive part of me almost wants to pursue the assault charges just to teach these assholes a lesson.
RainbowPhoenixGirl on September 23rd, 2018 at 08:35 UTC »
This kind of teacher is why I never told my parents anything. A boy at my school literally tried to kill me (I wasn't the only one, the boy had major untreated psychological problems and his parents were huge donors to the school), but I'd already learnt that if I tell my parents things, they tell the school, and then either the school punishes me or my bullies punish me or both.
I loathe teachers who do this because all they do is perpetuate abuse and hate and shame. LAOP, if you read this? Please please please fight back. Your daughter will hate it initially, but trust me in the long run it's better. My father pushed through years of bullshit to get my assailant expelled, and even if I hated what happened at the time, after a month it settled down and I was in a safer environment that, importantly, had not taught me that speaking out gets you punished. Please save your daughter from that horrible lesson.
Uhohflaksmd on September 23rd, 2018 at 05:32 UTC »
Wow that teacher is spiteful as fuck. Report that to the principal or go above the principal with an email/letter to the school director outlining the previous situation and how the teachers response was purposely spiteful and dare I say, cruel.
WyoGirl79 on September 23rd, 2018 at 04:42 UTC »
I had a teacher like the one described by LAOP and he pretty much ruined all enthusiasm I had for school. These parents need to get their daughter away from this teacher before more damage is done. This person should not be a teacher. A real teacher would have handled this differently from the beginning.