If I can just finish half of this project, then I'll go watch a movie and relax.
it's pretty hot today, why don't you watch the movie first in a nice AC cooled theater with popcorn, oh and take an edible with you, then come back and do the project when it's nice and cool in the evening
Start super small, work your way up. Never make a self-rule that you can't follow.
Super small shit like vacuuming or doing the laundry. One task at a time, over a small time scale. "I will do my laundry today". "I will brush my teeth before going to bed". "I will not open my computer/phone until I have taken a shower". Stuff like that.
Move up to larger tasks. "I will not watch any tv today" before a test day. "I will finish watching this lecture video today". Move forward to larger timescales, like a week.
The easier things to do are, rather than promising to do an action, promising not to do an action. Like eating a cookie. Promise no cookies this week. Move the cookies to a different spot so as to trigger your memory when you see the empty spot where they used to be. Keep it on a small timescale. Give yourself a reward for success (other than cookies).
For example I banned myself from videogames for the week before finals. I removed the shortcuts on my pc to help me remember, but kept the games installed.
Same if I need to concentrate while studying, I'll move the shortcut for reddit to a different spot, and ban myself from it for an hour or all day (reddit is harder to let go of than games, surprisingly).
Once you build up the weight of those rules, it has a ton of value. As long as you don't break them and diminish their value, you can use them to force yourself to be productive and get shit done. (never use it for long term goals, though.)
Sometimes if I feel like I'm addicted to something, I'll do this just to prove to myself that I'm not. Oftentimes by the end of the week, I'll have found other enjoyable ways to spend my time and be productive, and realize just how much time I was wasting on that thing. I'll end up not opening that thing for a while longer, even though I don't have a rule about it anymore.
NothingsShocking on July 26th, 2018 at 22:18 UTC »
If I can just finish half of this project, then I'll go watch a movie and relax.
it's pretty hot today, why don't you watch the movie first in a nice AC cooled theater with popcorn, oh and take an edible with you, then come back and do the project when it's nice and cool in the evening
hmmm OKAY!
cgduncan on July 27th, 2018 at 02:20 UTC »
Did anyone have an actual way to fix this?
memejets on July 27th, 2018 at 03:01 UTC »
Start super small, work your way up. Never make a self-rule that you can't follow.
Super small shit like vacuuming or doing the laundry. One task at a time, over a small time scale. "I will do my laundry today". "I will brush my teeth before going to bed". "I will not open my computer/phone until I have taken a shower". Stuff like that.
Move up to larger tasks. "I will not watch any tv today" before a test day. "I will finish watching this lecture video today". Move forward to larger timescales, like a week.
The easier things to do are, rather than promising to do an action, promising not to do an action. Like eating a cookie. Promise no cookies this week. Move the cookies to a different spot so as to trigger your memory when you see the empty spot where they used to be. Keep it on a small timescale. Give yourself a reward for success (other than cookies).
For example I banned myself from videogames for the week before finals. I removed the shortcuts on my pc to help me remember, but kept the games installed.
Same if I need to concentrate while studying, I'll move the shortcut for reddit to a different spot, and ban myself from it for an hour or all day (reddit is harder to let go of than games, surprisingly).
Once you build up the weight of those rules, it has a ton of value. As long as you don't break them and diminish their value, you can use them to force yourself to be productive and get shit done. (never use it for long term goals, though.)
Sometimes if I feel like I'm addicted to something, I'll do this just to prove to myself that I'm not. Oftentimes by the end of the week, I'll have found other enjoyable ways to spend my time and be productive, and realize just how much time I was wasting on that thing. I'll end up not opening that thing for a while longer, even though I don't have a rule about it anymore.