A teenager recovering from cancer has spoken of her devastation after her school banned her from its prom because she hadn’t attended enough classes.
Sixteen-year-old Alex Dallas, who attended Orminston Bolingbroke Academy in Runcorn, Cheshire, had been suffering from cancer from the age of four.
In preparation for the prom, she decided to undergo a life-threatening operation to remove a tumour in her head in December last year, rather than in the summer.
Following the operation, she took home tuition lessons in order to remain up-to-date with her learning.
Her mother spent £380 on a customised pink lace dress, and £60 on jewelled shoes.
Her grandmother Lorraine Gotting planned for her to have a makeover costing more than £100.
However, the school said she had failed to attend class for two weeks beforehand, the requirement for pupils who wanted to go to the prom.
A spokesperson told The Sunday Mirror: “We wanted to make sure attending the event was in the best interest of this student, and indeed her fellow students.
“Because she had not been in school for six months, we asked her to come in for one hour a day over a two-week period before the prom, so we could make an assessment and so she could interact with other students.
“Unfortunately she did not do so and so we reluctantly took the decision that it would not be right for her to attend the event.”
The young woman, who will be starting a nurse training course in September, told The Sunday Mirror: “I was so upset I couldn’t go. The prom’s the thing you look forward to from when you’re 11.
“It’s upset me that they say I’m mentally unstable – I’m not. People shouldn’t discriminate for something they don’t understand,” she added.
The school’s decision has been met with intense criticism.
The teenager's mother, Sam, accused the school of being unsupportive of her daughter: “She needed this, she’s just had her head sliced open in a massive operation."
Model Jasmine Lennard addressed the school in an open letter: “SHAME ON YOU. This is a little girl that has courageously battle cancer for over a decade, since the age of four she’s been undergoing hospital treatments and operations and fighting for her life.
Orminston Bolingbroke Academy, Cheshire (Google Street View)
“I demand that Alex Dallas receives a formal apology letter from yourselves expressing sincere regret and remorse for the inexplicably insensitive way that she has been treated.
“I also demand that Alex Dallas is IMMEDIATELY reimbursed in full for ALL costs associated to purchases her family made in relation to the prom.”
Speaking of Ms Dallas’ previous experience with depression, she added: “As someone who has also suffered from depression and anxiety for the majority of my life I relate to Alex Dallas. I sympathise with Alex Dallas. I have compassion towards Alex Dallas."
The young girl had been diagnosed with cancer at the age of four after her mother noticed swelling above her right eye. Years of chemotherapy and radiotherapy caused her to develop kidney disease and osteoporosis, which affected her growth – she stands at just four-foot-five inches tall.
ghost_orchid on July 4th, 2017 at 00:42 UTC »
I missed a lot of school in 9th and 10th grade because of a health problem... I still did my work on time to the best of my ability and had a tutor to help me catch up.
Quickly, all of the teachers and administrators I dealt with divided into two camps. One half was extremely helpful and understanding, and the other half acted like they were offended personally that I was sick. I had P.E. teachers scoff at doctors' notes and tell me that I was faking. I had a history teacher try to get me suspended for missing class. I had a math teacher refuse to send me work I missed even though it was against school policy. It was almost as if they were taking out whatever dissatisfaction they had in their lives on a kid just because they thought they could get away with it. Those two years were terrible, and, if anything, they taught me that administrators and teachers definitely aren't always on your side.
Oh yeah. Fuck you, Mr. Young.
Edit: A lot of you our in similar situations, and I want to say that things definitely get better after high school, even if it's difficult to deal with all of the administrators and bureaucratic bullshit right now. Your education's important, and hopefully you have friends, family, or even other teachers around to help you work through your difficulty to help complete your education.
Also, a lot of people are asking if I lived in a certain area because they know a Mr. Young who was also an asshole in high school. "Young" is a pretty common last name, and it's also pretty common for different high school teachers to act like an asshole, so probability says they're probably not the same person, though I'm sorry that the Mr. Young in question was an asshole, and also, fuck him too.
tsingi on July 3rd, 2017 at 21:35 UTC »
The school’s decision has been met with intense criticism.
Duh. I think someone's reputation is teetering on the verge of "Pariah". A little back paddling is advised.
StoicJ on July 3rd, 2017 at 18:08 UTC »
Ah the always reliable school administration where no special cases will be considered no matter what.