We do love them (5&6 year old sibling pair). We have had them for two months as of today. They’re in a foster-to-adopt situation as the parental rights have been terminated prior to them joining us. Four months from today we can begin the process of adopting them and getting at least two more kids out of the system.
My heart breaks that despite every ounce of effort she doesn’t know what love truly looks like for certain…. But my heart also soars knowing that she’s comfortable to give my wife and I each a note that says this on it, comfortable with us to ask us to love her.
Straight to the memory box this goes.
Edit: I guess this can serve as an update to this post and a few other less popular ones from the past two months on my page. If people like updates, feel free to follow. I’ve always wanted to have a more focused Reddit account and foster care seems like an important thing to give exposure to so more people may one day be encouraged to help in any way they can.
Edit2: I couldn’t wait till morning so I left this note under her glasses on her nightstand.
Edit3: (next morning) before she saw the note this morning, I saw her handing her brother a note at the breakfast table, and it was the same thing my wife and I received. When she finished and got ready and saw the note pictured in edit2, she smiled and twirled and showed her brother and they both did a tackle hug, which was a core moment for sure, then reality set in and we had to finish getting ready so they weren’t late to school!
kaitrsmith on March 2nd, 2023 at 03:13 UTC »
my heart, it’s broken
SoDakZak on March 2nd, 2023 at 03:15 UTC »
We do love them (5&6 year old sibling pair). We have had them for two months as of today. They’re in a foster-to-adopt situation as the parental rights have been terminated prior to them joining us. Four months from today we can begin the process of adopting them and getting at least two more kids out of the system.
My heart breaks that despite every ounce of effort she doesn’t know what love truly looks like for certain…. But my heart also soars knowing that she’s comfortable to give my wife and I each a note that says this on it, comfortable with us to ask us to love her.
Straight to the memory box this goes.
Edit: I guess this can serve as an update to this post and a few other less popular ones from the past two months on my page. If people like updates, feel free to follow. I’ve always wanted to have a more focused Reddit account and foster care seems like an important thing to give exposure to so more people may one day be encouraged to help in any way they can.
Edit2: I couldn’t wait till morning so I left this note under her glasses on her nightstand.
Edit3: (next morning) before she saw the note this morning, I saw her handing her brother a note at the breakfast table, and it was the same thing my wife and I received. When she finished and got ready and saw the note pictured in edit2, she smiled and twirled and showed her brother and they both did a tackle hug, which was a core moment for sure, then reality set in and we had to finish getting ready so they weren’t late to school!
PepperThePotato on March 2nd, 2023 at 03:20 UTC »
OMG, that poor little baby. That is so sad. I hope she grows up to have a good life and feels loved by the people around her.