My friend miscarried a few weeks ago. She knew she was miscarrying; it was early-term, but they had found the heartbeat. She was in so much pain that she went to the ER. They denied her a D&C (abortive procedure) and forced her to pass the miscarriage naturally. She was in horrible pain, and the D&C would've been a mercy. She told me that when she passed the fetus, she saw the clump of tissue and just broke down crying. She wanted that baby desperately... barring being able to have it, at the very least she wanted to not have to see when it passed. But she didn't get that option and care like this is why.
Our second pregnancy had anencephaly. The baby didn’t develop a skull around the brain, and the brain was floating around in the uterus. It broke us to abort but it was the right decision. Even if we made it to term, it would have been so painful to experience for all involved. Thankful for the medical option to have done it safely. We now have three beautiful children.
It’s insane! I took my wife to the hospital because she was white as a sheet and bleeding. We knew it was a miscarriage. We were refused treatment because, and this is a fucking quote, “the doctors can’t interfere with God’s plan.” And this wasn’t even a religiously affiliated hospital!!!!!! WHAT THE FUCK?!? What kind of world are we living in?!
She and I spent three hours on the floor in a hospital bathroom in the lobby with her screaming in pain and me barricading the door with my feet as I did my best to comfort her and keep out the security guards pounding on the door and trying to ram it in.
After everything had passed, she wasn’t admitted for care. We were escorted from the property by security and handed over to the police who took us to another hospital. My wife was attended to and then we were both questioned by police separately for about 3 hours. They kept asking if I’d given her any pills to induce a miscarriage and they kept asking her if she’d taken anything or exerted herself intentionally or “made any choices that could have led to a miscarriage.” Just unreal.
I’m still reeling. We both are. We just got home yesterday and as a man, I mentally feel like I did after having been raped years ago (literally, not a metaphor or figuratively - I was literally gang raped by a group of men many years ago). It sounds stupid, but the personal intrusion into my life, my wife, and how they grilled me and her. No one has any compassion.
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Sylphael on June 25th, 2022 at 22:31 UTC »
My friend miscarried a few weeks ago. She knew she was miscarrying; it was early-term, but they had found the heartbeat. She was in so much pain that she went to the ER. They denied her a D&C (abortive procedure) and forced her to pass the miscarriage naturally. She was in horrible pain, and the D&C would've been a mercy. She told me that when she passed the fetus, she saw the clump of tissue and just broke down crying. She wanted that baby desperately... barring being able to have it, at the very least she wanted to not have to see when it passed. But she didn't get that option and care like this is why.
Idivkemqoxurceke on June 26th, 2022 at 00:21 UTC »
Our second pregnancy had anencephaly. The baby didn’t develop a skull around the brain, and the brain was floating around in the uterus. It broke us to abort but it was the right decision. Even if we made it to term, it would have been so painful to experience for all involved. Thankful for the medical option to have done it safely. We now have three beautiful children.
Myzyri on June 26th, 2022 at 03:56 UTC »
It’s insane! I took my wife to the hospital because she was white as a sheet and bleeding. We knew it was a miscarriage. We were refused treatment because, and this is a fucking quote, “the doctors can’t interfere with God’s plan.” And this wasn’t even a religiously affiliated hospital!!!!!! WHAT THE FUCK?!? What kind of world are we living in?!
She and I spent three hours on the floor in a hospital bathroom in the lobby with her screaming in pain and me barricading the door with my feet as I did my best to comfort her and keep out the security guards pounding on the door and trying to ram it in.
After everything had passed, she wasn’t admitted for care. We were escorted from the property by security and handed over to the police who took us to another hospital. My wife was attended to and then we were both questioned by police separately for about 3 hours. They kept asking if I’d given her any pills to induce a miscarriage and they kept asking her if she’d taken anything or exerted herself intentionally or “made any choices that could have led to a miscarriage.” Just unreal.
I’m still reeling. We both are. We just got home yesterday and as a man, I mentally feel like I did after having been raped years ago (literally, not a metaphor or figuratively - I was literally gang raped by a group of men many years ago). It sounds stupid, but the personal intrusion into my life, my wife, and how they grilled me and her. No one has any compassion.