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ZnSaucier on May 20th, 2021 at 17:52 UTC »

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samanime on May 20th, 2021 at 18:09 UTC »

It's surprising how easy it can be to correct parents' bad behavior when you get older. My mom used to yell (literal yelling) at me constantly for everything.

My first week on college campus, she called yelling at me for something. Decided I'd had enough, so I hung up. She called back, yelling at me about hanging up. I hung up again. She called back and I said "from now on, I'll hang up if you yell at me".

Hasn't yelled at me since. Been over a decade.

Glad this person found a way to help fix this problem for their brother. Hopefully everyone's relationship is better overall too.

EDIT: Since I wrote this up to someone's now-deleted comment that was basically TL:DR "why did you get yelled at, maybe you deserved it", I'll just add it here:

Literally everything. My mom's default mode was "yell".

While I can't exactly convince (nor care to) an Internet stranger, I will say I'm considered the "good kid" and biggest success of my siblings, and always have been. I've also had a job very nearly continuously since I was 15, and between 5th and 9th grade (when my mom was a single parent), I did 100% of the housework as well as took care of my younger sibling. I also don't (and have never) drank, smoked, did drugs, snuck out or anything else "typical teen."

The things I got yelled at for were crazy petty minor things. I don't remember what I was being yelled at for in this case, but I remember it was super petty.

And even if I was a total little shit, it still doesn't justify yelling at kids. Yelling does not get a point through any clearer or make it more readily accepted. It actual causes defenses to go up and makes the point harder to get across and just causes resentment. Talking with a child in a calm manner and explaining reasons is vastly more effective.

Afraid-Ice-2062 on May 20th, 2021 at 20:09 UTC »

It’s weird because when I got married and changed my name people just cooperated immediately and apologize when they got it wrong or called me “miss” by accident but somehow it’s this whole dramatic thing when someone changes their first name.

Like a good 30% of the women you know change their names when they get married. It’s not a big deal. You figure it out. Sometimes you figure it out again when they get remarried or divorced.