Also, it's okay to be hurt sometimes. Just because you like someone doesn't mean they owe you anything.
Edit: given some of the comments I'm seeing I'd just like to add that you are not defined by the things that other people do to you. Nor can you control what other people do. You can acknowledge what others do and feel, allow yourself to feel what you feel, but also provide yourself time and compassion. Try your best to find ways to love yourself. That's the best any of us can do.
I think a lot of this stems from media where relationships are portrayed in a very warped way.
In most media (books, movies, TV shows) when the male protagonist likes a girl, she will almost always reciprocate the feeling by the end of the story. Everyone feels like the protagonist of their own story, so people with little to no experience in relationships will think that simply liking someone and being a nice person will be enough to get loved back.
Thats not how it works in real life though. Some people have just never been in a relationship at all, so everything they "know" about relationships is basically wrong. And I'm not saying this to be patronizing. I'm saying it because I have been there myself, many years ago.
kwenlu on January 11st, 2021 at 15:20 UTC »
Also, it's okay to be hurt sometimes. Just because you like someone doesn't mean they owe you anything.
Edit: given some of the comments I'm seeing I'd just like to add that you are not defined by the things that other people do to you. Nor can you control what other people do. You can acknowledge what others do and feel, allow yourself to feel what you feel, but also provide yourself time and compassion. Try your best to find ways to love yourself. That's the best any of us can do.
skiddlyskibopbop on January 11st, 2021 at 15:22 UTC »
Why would you want someone who wasn’t physically or mentally attracted to you to date you. That would awful lol
Jevonar on January 11st, 2021 at 15:30 UTC »
I think a lot of this stems from media where relationships are portrayed in a very warped way.
In most media (books, movies, TV shows) when the male protagonist likes a girl, she will almost always reciprocate the feeling by the end of the story. Everyone feels like the protagonist of their own story, so people with little to no experience in relationships will think that simply liking someone and being a nice person will be enough to get loved back.
Thats not how it works in real life though. Some people have just never been in a relationship at all, so everything they "know" about relationships is basically wrong. And I'm not saying this to be patronizing. I'm saying it because I have been there myself, many years ago.