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pm_me_your_tits_2020 on October 24th, 2020 at 00:29 UTC »

Yep, anyone who stays together “for the kids” is hurting everyone in the long run.

EDIT: since this comment sort of blew up, I needed to add an edit.

First off, everyone who is sharing their story and know what I mean - you obviously get it. And for the youngins still stuck in that situation, be strong. You will be a stronger person for it, just do what you can to maintain your sanity.

Now, for the disagreeing comments. I’ve read em all (inbox replies). But the common theme still is that those parents were sane people who were able to maintain some amicability in turmoil. But the kids (you) still noticed what was going on. Don’t tell me you don’t even have a shred of guilt after growing up? And don’t tell me it had no negative impact on those parents. How could they have maintained other relationships properly? So they gave up on their happiness. Also, the key word is “for the kids”. Some have said that, well parents might do it for themselves. So you ignore the essence of my comment to begin with?

Bottom line is it is better for kids to understand that it’s not their fault and (hopefully) both parents still love them. I have mentored young kids with divorced parents. And at least in my experience they were are well balanced kids, and in much better shape than I personally was at that age.

And finally using my username (which is just a crude joke) as a crutch for your argument is just pathetic.

chewbooks on October 24th, 2020 at 00:37 UTC »

Every time I meet a parent that says that we’re staying together for the kids bs I want to smack them.

Like seriously, you’re sleeping in separate rooms, never attend a school event at the same time, can’t even have a conversation without clenching your teeth, etc BUT think your kids don’t notice?!

Edit: Some are taking my *separate rooms” thing personally and I didn’t mean it that way, I hope you know that. There’s a world of difference between sleeping separately because of snoring or other sleep issues and I frigging can’t stand you so I’m sleeping in the room on the whole other side of the house with my clothes, personal items and we are never seen standing within five feet of each other again.

I love y’all that are happy and living your best life, truly.

ShenTzuKhan on October 24th, 2020 at 01:03 UTC »

Yeah, people used to ask if the divorce was traumatic to me, it was hard to tell them it was the end of the traumatic experiences. Two angry sad people both became happy at the same time, that makes the kids happier too.