Fuck that’s probably the most eloquent way I’ve seen the argument put. Yeah it does completely come down to how you phrase it and the way you want it to be answered.
My wife and I were put in that exact same position. A 1 in 25,000 genetic condition that made the chance of our baby surviving birth almost 0, and if they did survive they would live a life in hospitals and having surgeries.
We had a name, the nursery and everything.
What we didn't appreciate was the protestors outside the hospital telling us that we were going to hell.
It was the hardest choice we ever had to make. But it was our choice
I'm currently almost 7 months pregnant with a very much loved and wanted baby. I'm also on a medication that if I stop I could die, but also has a 0.7% chance of giving my baby a deadly birth defect. So far everything has been good and my baby is healthy, however I am terrified every time I have to get a scan or test that the doctors are going to tell me my baby has a defect and would not survive outside the womb. If that were the case, at this point in my pregnancy I wouldn't have an abortion per say, but labor would be induced and I would have to essentially give birth to a dead baby. I've told my husband if this is the case knock me the fuck out with drugs/anaesthetics before I have to do that. I don't want to remember giving birth to our dead baby, knowing we won't get to bring her home is traumatic enough. I can't imagine having to carry her for months knowing she was going to die no matter what. To lose her would be losing a part of myself, a part that I don't know could ever be recovered.
To force someone to continue to carry a non-viable pregnancy is beyond immoral, cruel, and inhumane, and I will never have respect for ANYONE that believes otherwise. Sorry not sorry.
melvinfosho on October 12nd, 2020 at 20:50 UTC »
Fuck that’s probably the most eloquent way I’ve seen the argument put. Yeah it does completely come down to how you phrase it and the way you want it to be answered.
jhcooke98 on October 12nd, 2020 at 23:10 UTC »
100% this.
My wife and I were put in that exact same position. A 1 in 25,000 genetic condition that made the chance of our baby surviving birth almost 0, and if they did survive they would live a life in hospitals and having surgeries.
We had a name, the nursery and everything.
What we didn't appreciate was the protestors outside the hospital telling us that we were going to hell.
It was the hardest choice we ever had to make. But it was our choice
deadhoe9 on October 13rd, 2020 at 00:39 UTC »
I'm currently almost 7 months pregnant with a very much loved and wanted baby. I'm also on a medication that if I stop I could die, but also has a 0.7% chance of giving my baby a deadly birth defect. So far everything has been good and my baby is healthy, however I am terrified every time I have to get a scan or test that the doctors are going to tell me my baby has a defect and would not survive outside the womb. If that were the case, at this point in my pregnancy I wouldn't have an abortion per say, but labor would be induced and I would have to essentially give birth to a dead baby. I've told my husband if this is the case knock me the fuck out with drugs/anaesthetics before I have to do that. I don't want to remember giving birth to our dead baby, knowing we won't get to bring her home is traumatic enough. I can't imagine having to carry her for months knowing she was going to die no matter what. To lose her would be losing a part of myself, a part that I don't know could ever be recovered.
To force someone to continue to carry a non-viable pregnancy is beyond immoral, cruel, and inhumane, and I will never have respect for ANYONE that believes otherwise. Sorry not sorry.