I'm deaf. A lot of people feel this way because in the community being deaf isn't seen as a disability most of the time, I don't have an opinion on that. I'm very much aware of the fact that my deafness is a disability that makes life harder, but that's only my experience and hearing loss is a very wide spectrum, if they can learn to love their deafness more power to them.
However, this often results in the deaf community being quite exclusionary. They're extremely protective to the point of policing the capitalisation of the word "Deaf", the use of hearing aids and saying things like this about parents that just want the best for their child. I have never felt like I belonged in the deaf community because of people like this. Not being accepted in either world is a really common thing actually.
Edit: Someone commented an example of what I'm talking about. I'm going to copy/paste that here
"The fact that you aren't capitalizing Deaf makes me think you just know Deaf people. Probably a younger sibling of a Deaf person.
We capitalize Deaf because we have a culture, a language, a history. Nobody polices the use of hearing aids. They do police, if that's the right word (it's not), the use of cochlear implants on children. And that seems completely reasonable.
You don't belong to the Deaf community. You don't even have enough respect for us to capitalize our name"
You invalidate me and insinuate that I am lying just because I don't feel the way that you do, just because I didn't capitalise a word. I perfectly understand "Deaf culture", I'm not against it either. Whether you believe me or not, I am still Deaf. I can't change that, sorry.
I'm just saying that there is unfortunately a lot of us who are deaf (or Deaf. I really didn't mean anything by that. I was writing what I thought was just a random tiny, unseen comment on a cringe subreddit. I have no agenda.) that have been "mistreated" by people who are in "Deaf culture", I have personally experienced people policing the use of hearing aids, and contrary to what you may think I don't think that cochlear implants should be thrown on young children as much as they seem to be. It isn't a perfect solution, far from it as we know. And yes, they do police it.
Please don't dismiss/doubt something that is a fundamental part of me just because we disagree. I would love more than anything to be a part of the community, but unfortunately the times that I have tried have left me feeling unaccepted. Apparently that is a sentiment that a lot of people share. That is all I meant.
Their argument doesn’t make sense because babies can’t consent to anything... That’s why parents make these decisions for them using their better judgement. What’s wrong with people lol
Put it like this: If the kids grows up and decides to go back to being deaf that'd be pretty easy. If they wanna hear but wasn't given the procedure though that'd be hard.
There is nothing unethical with restoring healthy biological functions to a child who was born disabled.
lapetitepapillon on July 13rd, 2020 at 20:49 UTC »
I'm deaf. A lot of people feel this way because in the community being deaf isn't seen as a disability most of the time, I don't have an opinion on that. I'm very much aware of the fact that my deafness is a disability that makes life harder, but that's only my experience and hearing loss is a very wide spectrum, if they can learn to love their deafness more power to them.
However, this often results in the deaf community being quite exclusionary. They're extremely protective to the point of policing the capitalisation of the word "Deaf", the use of hearing aids and saying things like this about parents that just want the best for their child. I have never felt like I belonged in the deaf community because of people like this. Not being accepted in either world is a really common thing actually.
Edit: Someone commented an example of what I'm talking about. I'm going to copy/paste that here
"The fact that you aren't capitalizing Deaf makes me think you just know Deaf people. Probably a younger sibling of a Deaf person.
We capitalize Deaf because we have a culture, a language, a history. Nobody polices the use of hearing aids. They do police, if that's the right word (it's not), the use of cochlear implants on children. And that seems completely reasonable.
You don't belong to the Deaf community. You don't even have enough respect for us to capitalize our name"
You invalidate me and insinuate that I am lying just because I don't feel the way that you do, just because I didn't capitalise a word. I perfectly understand "Deaf culture", I'm not against it either. Whether you believe me or not, I am still Deaf. I can't change that, sorry.
I'm just saying that there is unfortunately a lot of us who are deaf (or Deaf. I really didn't mean anything by that. I was writing what I thought was just a random tiny, unseen comment on a cringe subreddit. I have no agenda.) that have been "mistreated" by people who are in "Deaf culture", I have personally experienced people policing the use of hearing aids, and contrary to what you may think I don't think that cochlear implants should be thrown on young children as much as they seem to be. It isn't a perfect solution, far from it as we know. And yes, they do police it.
Please don't dismiss/doubt something that is a fundamental part of me just because we disagree. I would love more than anything to be a part of the community, but unfortunately the times that I have tried have left me feeling unaccepted. Apparently that is a sentiment that a lot of people share. That is all I meant.
TheDBotv on July 13rd, 2020 at 21:40 UTC »
Their argument doesn’t make sense because babies can’t consent to anything... That’s why parents make these decisions for them using their better judgement. What’s wrong with people lol
VerumJerum on July 13rd, 2020 at 21:40 UTC »
Put it like this: If the kids grows up and decides to go back to being deaf that'd be pretty easy. If they wanna hear but wasn't given the procedure though that'd be hard.
There is nothing unethical with restoring healthy biological functions to a child who was born disabled.