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generic_bitch on May 20th, 2020 at 10:43 UTC »

For all the “move out” comments. My explanation. I wish I could. I really do. Reasons I cannot yet.

I’m chronically ill to the point of being unable to work enough to save up and move out on my own. My illness comes on unexpectedly and episodes can last anywhere from a few hours to a few weeks without a break.

My family are Muslims and women do not leave the home and move out unless it is for school or marriage. Doing that effectively means being cut off. And given my low income (I freelance from home and am saving) and my high cost of medications and medical care needed, I cannot afford to be cut off financially from them.

Even if I moved in with my fiancé, we could not afford rent + my medical costs.

Edit: people seem to think this is me being lazy, but for just one of my prescriptions, it is $600 for 9 pills. I go through at least 15-20 pills in a month. Another prescription I take is $2130 each month. Doctors and specialists visits run about $500 a month. My other prescriptions combined are $476 a month. Refills on my medical equipment run about $60 a month. I have to eat a special diet which costs more than what I could afford on my own as well.

Second edit: Yes, I am incredibly lucky to have financial support from my parents, and that they can afford this. But that does not negate abusive and controlling behavior. I will still forever be grateful that they can help pay for my medical costs and expenses. I don’t hate her. I love her very much. But I don’t like her behavior and thought process at times.

Part-Officer on May 20th, 2020 at 10:52 UTC »

Whoa what? Was she trying to withhold your migraine meds from you, did I read that correctly? That’s super messed up! I get chronic migraines, it’s the absolute worst. Why would she do that? Why is she okay with you being in that much pain and keeping the thing that’s going to stop it/lessen it from you? That’s absolutely horrible, I’m so sorry! Also, why does she think it’s acceptable and appropriate to watch a grown adult sleep? Why does she think it’s okay to sit and watch you like that until you conform to her will, like why is she being this controlling? This is absolutely insane, and I hope you’re able to get out of this situation as soon as you’re able to. Her behavior is so creepy. And I honestly feel like her trying to withhold your meds from you is her trying to punish you for not doing exactly what she wants, when she wants (but maybe I’m just reading it wrong).

hello-mr-cat on May 20th, 2020 at 12:11 UTC »

You're in a cult... with your mom as supreme leader.

Please read some books on the subject of toxic parents.

Do you relate to the checklists in this book? https://agileleanlife.com/toxic-parents/

You say you are engaged. How quickly can you seal the marriage and move in with your fiance? Or fiance's family? Anything is better than the witch.