Husband won’t file divorce but has cut us off financially. How do I get access back to our money to file? : legaladvice

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So my husband of many years is going through a mid life crisis. He’s found a new girlfriend and has decided he wants to live the bachelor life. We have 5 young children together. I have not worked since our first child was born. I don’t have job training or a career of any kind.

My husband closed our bank accounts (accounts were in both of our names) moved the money to another bank so I no longer have access to them. He’s refusing to give me any information about where the accounts are. He left 1 for household bills but at times I have to beg him for money to pay unexpected expenses. He’s just cut mine and the children’s health insurance off. We own a very lucrative company and are financially VERY well off but he’s moved the company accounts as well. He has moved out and bought a new home for himself and has stopped paying the mortgage on the home me and our children live in. We’re now 4 months behind. I’ve been trying to find a job but he frequently travels out of state for work without giving me notice and often just cancels on his time with the kids so it’s going to be impossible to hold down a job with managing 5 kids alone with very little help and no money for daycare. One of our children is a special needs child and requires a special school along with a lot of hands on care by us (now me). No health insurance means no medical help for her.

I can’t file for divorce because I don’t have the money since he’s moved our accounts and won’t allow me access to them. I’ve been told that if he files the judge will order him to pay my attorneys fees but if I file the judge likely won’t. He’s refusing to file. I just don’t know what to do. How can I get access to our money or force him to pay the mortgage to the house (that’s in his name) if I can’t afford an attorney to do it? Im in Texas so I’m sure the laws are different in different states. I’m really desperate and need some advice. He’s really kind of just lost his mind and has decided he doesn’t want his family anymore.

Gloster_Thrush on February 20th, 2020 at 15:58 UTC »

I gotta stop fucking w True Crime shit because my first thought was: “well, at least he didn’t kill her and the kids”. Because people do that shit in similar scenarios with alarming frequency.

I’ll never understand how people can abuse their kid’s parent so wantonly. My son in eleven and his dad and I split when he was 18 months old. It was not civil at first. I love his father more now than I probably ever did because my son loves him so much. I can’t imagine being so cruel to someone so important to the person I love most of all. Parents that do this shit to their kids are fucking psychopaths. What kinda person would want to be this motherfucker’s girlfriend?! NO THANKS.

dfBishop on February 20th, 2020 at 15:16 UTC »

5 kids

LAOP hasn't worked since the first one was born

new girlfriend

new house for himself

not paying the mortgage on the family home that his FIVE KIDS LIVE IN

closing all the bank accounts

making LAOP beg for money to live

Imagine being this much of a fucking scumbag and not just . . . having to go to jail.

EDIT: folks, I regret to inform you . . . . . . . . . . . . . the MRAs have Logged On

tartymae on February 20th, 2020 at 14:56 UTC »

I am SO hoping for an update to this. The soon to be ex is about to get hit with a hammer.