My current boyfriend, future husband, didn’t get freaked out when I decided to stop taking the pill (it was causing some really annoying side effects).
He listened to my reasons, agreed that a break was best for me and didn’t make a huge deal out of having to use condoms, which is something over which previous boyfriends always guilt-tripped me.
Obviously I can’t know what wearing a condom feels like, but I appreciate that he didn’t even hesitate to do what’s best for me right now.
I’m just happy he noticed I flinched when he moved his arm after we got in a fight. He’d never hurt me. The ex did. The ex choked and beat me for trying to leave. My husband not only noticed the slight flinch, he calmed down, calmed me down, end of fight. It’s such a little thing, but he noticed and he makes me feel so safe even when he’s mad at me.
My ex girlfriend got so frustrated because I carried around a big purse. I like to journal and read, so I prefer a big purse so I can fit the books in there. She would get so embarrassed and angry when I dug through my purse for something. I finally caved and got a small one because it was a fight I was tired of having.
When I started dating my current partner (who is the absolute love of my life), I was still using the small bag. He saw me struggling to decide if I wanted to take a notebook or book with me that day, and then struggling to pick a book that would fit in the purse. He simply said “baby, just carry a big one. Then you can take as many things as you want!” It was so relieving... and I got a big purse for Christmas.
Natures_Stepchild on December 28th, 2019 at 15:10 UTC »
My current boyfriend, future husband, didn’t get freaked out when I decided to stop taking the pill (it was causing some really annoying side effects).
He listened to my reasons, agreed that a break was best for me and didn’t make a huge deal out of having to use condoms, which is something over which previous boyfriends always guilt-tripped me.
Obviously I can’t know what wearing a condom feels like, but I appreciate that he didn’t even hesitate to do what’s best for me right now.
sizzlesfantalike on December 28th, 2019 at 15:17 UTC »
I’m just happy he noticed I flinched when he moved his arm after we got in a fight. He’d never hurt me. The ex did. The ex choked and beat me for trying to leave. My husband not only noticed the slight flinch, he calmed down, calmed me down, end of fight. It’s such a little thing, but he noticed and he makes me feel so safe even when he’s mad at me.
astro-ponies on December 28th, 2019 at 15:17 UTC »
My ex girlfriend got so frustrated because I carried around a big purse. I like to journal and read, so I prefer a big purse so I can fit the books in there. She would get so embarrassed and angry when I dug through my purse for something. I finally caved and got a small one because it was a fight I was tired of having.
When I started dating my current partner (who is the absolute love of my life), I was still using the small bag. He saw me struggling to decide if I wanted to take a notebook or book with me that day, and then struggling to pick a book that would fit in the purse. He simply said “baby, just carry a big one. Then you can take as many things as you want!” It was so relieving... and I got a big purse for Christmas.