There is a scene in the movie Harvey where the doctor says he wants to lay under a tree and poor out all his problems while a woman strokes his hair and just says “poor thing”. I really relate to that scene.
I’ve been going through a rough time the last year or so. A few months ago my wife started to brush my hair as I was laying next to her in bed and I broke within a few seconds. Cried the hardest I had in years.
Later in one of our la maize classes our teacher was showing us massage techniques and said, “remember to tell your partner what you want, we all massage and touch the way we would want it, not necessarily the way our partner wants it.” My wife looked at me and said, “oh my god. Every time I’m upset, or sad, or just venting you immediately physically comfort me. Is that because it’s what you want when you’re doing the same?”
I’ve been able to express myself so much more lately since we have learned how much this helps. There is definitely no weakness in it despite what a lot of us are brought up believing.
stumptowncampground on May 16th, 2019 at 21:20 UTC »
There is a scene in the movie Harvey where the doctor says he wants to lay under a tree and poor out all his problems while a woman strokes his hair and just says “poor thing”. I really relate to that scene.
Duthos on May 16th, 2019 at 21:24 UTC »
I average one hug a year.
Think a few more might help me feel human.
Edit - Just wanna say... thank you all. You folks really made my day
drmf94 on May 16th, 2019 at 21:54 UTC »
I’ve been going through a rough time the last year or so. A few months ago my wife started to brush my hair as I was laying next to her in bed and I broke within a few seconds. Cried the hardest I had in years.
Later in one of our la maize classes our teacher was showing us massage techniques and said, “remember to tell your partner what you want, we all massage and touch the way we would want it, not necessarily the way our partner wants it.” My wife looked at me and said, “oh my god. Every time I’m upset, or sad, or just venting you immediately physically comfort me. Is that because it’s what you want when you’re doing the same?”
I’ve been able to express myself so much more lately since we have learned how much this helps. There is definitely no weakness in it despite what a lot of us are brought up believing.