31 M here, spent most of my 20's in the military or in college, neither of which made deciding what to wear into much of a decision. Then I landed a real job at a major company and realized my coworkers all had clothes that really fit them. Like, I'm not into guys, but I was checking out all my male coworkers, because their pants all just fit so.... perfectly. Not too tight, but you can tell that a size up or down would have looked off somehow.
Meanwhile I was rolling in wearing slouchy pants and a hoodie. Took me about 5 months before I realized I just didn't look as pro as my colleagues, and by then I'd kind of made that same impression on everyone I work with.
I didn't say anything to my team but I overhauled my wardrobe on Black Friday, got a bunch of different colors of Levis that fit me as well as any dress uniform the Marines put me in (I also had a habit of only wearing blue jeans, but now I've got all kinds of colors).
Now I feel more confident at work and my teammates have started looking at me like I fit in. Maybe it's a childish thing to change your look in order to fit in with your peers, but I really felt like it was an investment in my professionalism, and I started getting all kinds of compliments. You do you OP!
In my 20s, I dressed like a kid. In my 30s, I dressed better with better fitting clothes and nicer brands. This enabled me to entrap a poor woman into my life. In my 40s, as a married man and dad to two little kids and being my own boss with nobody to impress, I dress like a homeless person who just came out of the Australian outback on foot.
Half the battle is in the fit - a well fitted t-shirt and pair of jeans can still be a great look when it seems like they’re actually on purpose, just like a slouchy oversized suit can look as unkempt as sweatpants.
digitalOctopus on December 16th, 2018 at 02:17 UTC »
31 M here, spent most of my 20's in the military or in college, neither of which made deciding what to wear into much of a decision. Then I landed a real job at a major company and realized my coworkers all had clothes that really fit them. Like, I'm not into guys, but I was checking out all my male coworkers, because their pants all just fit so.... perfectly. Not too tight, but you can tell that a size up or down would have looked off somehow.
Meanwhile I was rolling in wearing slouchy pants and a hoodie. Took me about 5 months before I realized I just didn't look as pro as my colleagues, and by then I'd kind of made that same impression on everyone I work with.
I didn't say anything to my team but I overhauled my wardrobe on Black Friday, got a bunch of different colors of Levis that fit me as well as any dress uniform the Marines put me in (I also had a habit of only wearing blue jeans, but now I've got all kinds of colors).
Now I feel more confident at work and my teammates have started looking at me like I fit in. Maybe it's a childish thing to change your look in order to fit in with your peers, but I really felt like it was an investment in my professionalism, and I started getting all kinds of compliments. You do you OP!
Edit: S/F to you devils out there
dbx99 on December 16th, 2018 at 02:24 UTC »
In my 20s, I dressed like a kid. In my 30s, I dressed better with better fitting clothes and nicer brands. This enabled me to entrap a poor woman into my life. In my 40s, as a married man and dad to two little kids and being my own boss with nobody to impress, I dress like a homeless person who just came out of the Australian outback on foot.
brijjen on December 16th, 2018 at 02:30 UTC »
Half the battle is in the fit - a well fitted t-shirt and pair of jeans can still be a great look when it seems like they’re actually on purpose, just like a slouchy oversized suit can look as unkempt as sweatpants.