Is this sexual harassment? Will I also get in trouble? : legaladvice

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Hi I’m a 16 year old female from Maine and I work at a grocery store. My manager is an adult male probably around 35 or 40. He’s always acted kind of sexual towards me ever since I started working here about 8 months ago. His wife works as a manager in a different dept and she has also been kind of sexual towards me too. My manager constantly makes sexual comments about my boobs and butt and stuff, after he first started doing this he asked if it was ok for him to say stuff like that to me and I said it was fine, I don’t know why I said it was ok but I guess I just like the attention sometimes. He also asks me a lot of sexual questions like if I’m a virgin or how much I masterbate and stuff and I’ve answered some of his questions before and he’s also asked me if it’s ok for him to say those things and I said yes also. He sometimes talks about his sex life and he tells me probably at least once a week that he’s about to go jerk off in his office and that I can come watch if I want. I never went to go watch him but he still tells me about it a lot.

The worst thing that has happened is that earlier this week I was really sick with an ocular migraine which is something I have been dealing with for a long time. I’ve called out three times because of it which is the most I can call out in 6 months before I’m fired. I came into work with a migraine and I felt like I was going to puke and I really didn’t want to puke at work so I asked if I could leave early. He said I’d get fired if I left because I have use all my sick days, he said he didn’t want to fire me but it wouldn’t be up to him. I was only trying to leave 2 hours early which I later found out wouldn’t have been used against me because according to the employee handbook it’s only held against me if I miss more than half a shift. Anyway he said he’d let me leave early without repercussions if I showed him my boobs. I didn’t really want to but he promised he wouldn’t tell anybody and I really wanted to leave so I did it. Today at work he asked for my Snapchat and I lied and told him I didn’t have one. He somehow knew I was lying and got kind of angry. He said he thought we were friends and that he has my coworkers on Snapchat. I told him that my friends are all my age and he looked really angry and told me that he had covered my ass so many times and I would be fired if it wasn’t for him. I don’t know if that’s true. He told me that I was going to get fired for leaving early the other day even though he said it was fine once I showed him my boobs. He said he could get me fired for my attendance and if I tried to report him for the sexual stuff that he would tell corporate that I tried to seduce him in order to get more time off which isn’t true. He said I would go to jail for prostitution and bribeing. He also said he’d tell everybody at work that I showed him my boobs if I tried to report him. He said that all the sexual stuff he said doesn’t count because I told him it was ok. He told me to go home and that he’d send my last check so I’m assuming I’m fired even though he never said so. I don’t know what to do. I can’t tell my dad because I’m afraid he will get mad that I showed my boobs. I know he will be extremely mad if I tell him the truth and he might get physical or isolate me from everybody else in my life like he had done before when I’ve done something really bad.

My questions are will I actually get in trouble for this? Did he do anything illegal and should I report him to the police? There are probably more questions I should be asking but I just can’t think straight, I’ve been crying all day. Thank you

Welpe on November 19th, 2018 at 16:42 UTC »

Is this going to be sexual assault week?

Cause if so I want off this ride =\

justathoughtfromme on November 19th, 2018 at 16:41 UTC »

OP just posted an update on the highest comment:

Hi I'm responding to this comment just because it's the highest one. i just wanted to say that i feel really bad that i made everybody think my dad is abusive because i really don't think he is. all i meant to say is that i'm afraid to tell him because he will be angry and disappointed with me, not because i think he will hurt me. i'm also afraid that he will probably not know what to do and will just try to fight my manager which won't solve anything. i know he will be disappointed because i once got suspended from school for flashing my boobs when i was a freshman and i only did it because i wanted attention and i think he's going to assume that's the case here too. i'm going to tell him about it after i report it to the police after school today so he knows that it's serious and i'm not lying or being irresponsible and i just hope he's not gonna try to fix things himself. also i called my store manager not my manager that was giving me problems and he told me that i was already taken off the schedule and not to come back ever. he sounded really angry on the phone and i don't know what my manager told him happened but either way i'm fired already.

threeLetterMeyhem on November 19th, 2018 at 16:14 UTC »

harassing

Bossman escalated it to straight up sexual assault on a minor. This dude needs to spend some time behind bars.