Posted this on r/relationships and got advised to put it on here. Some more things: to the best of my knowledge, she would never do anything to hurt me which includes tattling to her parents (from what I know she doesn’t have a good relationship with them and they’ve put her in some hard places before) Or at least I hope not..
I’ve been looking to settle down recently and met a gorgeous girl on tinder where we hit it off instantly and have been pursuing a relationship for the past 3 months. Yes, this includes the physical side (obviously before i found out her real age). We have discussed age-specific things before, and she has always seemed so well versed in her high school days and uni work that I never even noticed anything was up. The age on her profile is 19, and I never thought to doubt it because she looks about 20 anyway and has the maturity of someone around that age too. She asked me to grab some cash out of her wallet yesterday and I found an old ID with her real birth year on it— 2003. I haven’t confronted her on it, and personally have no idea how to even begin. I was falling in love with her and now I feel completely duped. Obviously I haven’t pursued any sexual stuff with her after I found out, but I am so heartbroken. I’m not a pedophile but really have no idea how to deal with this! Any advice is appreciated
TL;DR been unknowingly fucking and falling in love with a 15 year old girl for the past 3 months.
smidgit on October 22nd, 2018 at 21:45 UTC »
I know of a guy who met a girl in a nightclub, started dating her, fell in love etc. Then he found out she was 14 to his 19. He broke up with her immediately and she told her parents who went to the police. Had it just been that, he’d have been fine, as nightclubs are supposed to be 18+ therefore it’s reasonable to assume she was too. Obviously, some trouble, but not huge amounts. The defence knew he’d get a slap on the wrist, but they were optimistic.
But as it turns out, he’d texted her after they’d broken up saying things like “if only you were 18” etc.
Boom.
Hit with a grooming charge.
Now, he’s on the sex offenders registry, jailed for 2 years (the prosecution went for 5), lost job, lost family lost friends... absolutely devastating for everyone involved.
whatsreallygoingon on October 22nd, 2018 at 19:15 UTC »
Step 1. Lock down all social media.
Step 2. Sit down with her and confess that you stole your older brother's identity (to whom you bear an uncanny resemblance) and that you are actually just 15.
Step 3. Fake your death.
Amvier on October 22nd, 2018 at 15:58 UTC »
Okay, I guess he’s not in too much trouble as long as he wasn’t having sex with...
RIP