Is an ob/gyn checking your virginity without your consent considered sexual assault?
About 6 years, a trusted a doctor, who was also my halaqa (Islamic studies) teacher, did this to me when I came in to her office. She was only supposed to check to see if I had an infection, but she decided to look much deeper and check my hymen. She noticed that my hymen was broken, and in disgust, decided to go deeper with multiple fingers and she asked me if I was virgin. I do not know if this was considered sexual assault, in a legal sense, but I did feel very uncomfortable that she asked for my sexual history. I believe she did that because being sexual active before marriage is considered a serious sin in Islam and I was unmarried. Also because she was my Islamic studies teacher, she wanted to make sure I was not sinning in that way. Could this be considered sexual assault?
I should clarify: this incident happened in the USA- California.
Based on the posts, I decide to not report it but I plan to speak with counselor for further consultation. Appreciate the overwhelming amount comments!
HobbitWithShoes on October 17th, 2018 at 18:26 UTC »
I'm hung up on how she goes to her Islamic studies teacher as a doctor. I'm assuming since this doctor seems to have a full time job that the Islamic Studies class must be somewhat compatible to a Christian Sunday School class.
And then I'm just getting the shivers at how terrible it would be on so many levels for my Sunday School teacher to be my OB/GYN. There's way to many concerns about privacy (What if they let something slip out that was said during an exam?) and comfort (I don't want to see my OB/GYN in any context other than the hospital. She's a nice woman, but she's seen too much.), not to mention the issues like LAOP with being judged during an exam and not feeling like you can be honest with your physician.
Given the relationship of LAOP with her doctor outside of the office I wonder if the doctor only thought that what she did was "OK" because she thought it was ok in the context of their relationship. It's 100% not OK in the least, but I would hope that since she's a licensed professional she wouldn't do that to a random woman.
sacracunt on October 17th, 2018 at 14:32 UTC »
/r/badwomensanatomy
oignonne on October 17th, 2018 at 12:17 UTC »
Well this is horrifying (and not how virginity works).