As a dad, I've seen similarly stressed out moms and have wanted to help, but there's a different dynamic there -- offering to hold their kid. Which I get and have accepted.
However, one time I saw this super stressed out and exhausted mom standing in front of the milk shelf -- thousand-yard stare. Asked her if I could help her. She said her kid (18-months-ish) had been throwing up the cows milk she'd been giving him as they transitioned off breastfeeding and formula. Coincidentally, my kid had a similar sort of dairy issue. I told her we switched to almond milk and we were able to start working in some of those healthy fats and proteins in other ways.
Not sure why I'm sharing. Maybe just in case any other dads/men out there who don't feel comfortable offering to hold someone else's kid (as innocent an offer that is) there are other ways to help. We're all in this together.
EDIT: Not trying to make a social statement about the perception of men being nurturing and safe. I do have RBF and don't often come across as "approachable". It's me; not them. I got dirty looks once at a church fair when I was -- from more than arm's length -- trying to help a lost little girl who was crying find her parent. It's just a fact that everyone comes with their life experiences and I'm not going to use a stressful moment in the dairy aisle to try to fight social stigma.
She just look like a generally nice lady. I think it’s because she looks like a person I know.. like a person who would gladly go out of their way to help you. I really respect people like that
speedycat2014 on October 10th, 2018 at 22:31 UTC »
Tiffany taking an enormous personal risk with those hoop earrings. Both kind and daring of her.
set123 on October 10th, 2018 at 22:55 UTC »
As a dad, I've seen similarly stressed out moms and have wanted to help, but there's a different dynamic there -- offering to hold their kid. Which I get and have accepted.
However, one time I saw this super stressed out and exhausted mom standing in front of the milk shelf -- thousand-yard stare. Asked her if I could help her. She said her kid (18-months-ish) had been throwing up the cows milk she'd been giving him as they transitioned off breastfeeding and formula. Coincidentally, my kid had a similar sort of dairy issue. I told her we switched to almond milk and we were able to start working in some of those healthy fats and proteins in other ways.
Not sure why I'm sharing. Maybe just in case any other dads/men out there who don't feel comfortable offering to hold someone else's kid (as innocent an offer that is) there are other ways to help. We're all in this together.
EDIT: Not trying to make a social statement about the perception of men being nurturing and safe. I do have RBF and don't often come across as "approachable". It's me; not them. I got dirty looks once at a church fair when I was -- from more than arm's length -- trying to help a lost little girl who was crying find her parent. It's just a fact that everyone comes with their life experiences and I'm not going to use a stressful moment in the dairy aisle to try to fight social stigma.
Wolvgirl15 on October 11st, 2018 at 00:04 UTC »
She just look like a generally nice lady. I think it’s because she looks like a person I know.. like a person who would gladly go out of their way to help you. I really respect people like that