While I was getting my ass handed to me in this post, a coworker confessed to the assault. From what I hear, the dna tests were just a threat to put pressure on this one dude who they suspected, I don’t think they actually took anyone’s dna.
Many people pointed out that I sounded sketchy in my original post. That was probably true. I’m a recovering addict (three years clean and sober), and I did a lot of crazy stuff in my past- not raping anyone, but junkie shit like breaking and entering, squatting, getting in fights, etc. I didn’t know you could get a paternity test for an unborn baby, so I thought they were just going to put my dna in a database, and maybe things I never got caught for would come up. If I knew I was just being tested against a baby, I would have said sure.
I want to say that because of my past, I’m a squeaky clean employee- I never so much as swipe a snack from the pantry or an Advil from the med cart. We’re not supposed to ever be alone with members, and I never am, even if I’m just dropping off a tray in someone’s room, or if a member has work detail in the kitchen. I guess I was acting paranoid because I was pissed about being suspected when I’ve tried so hard to be straight, and that ended up making me seem more suspicious.
Hopefully now that the guy who did it was arrested, things can go back to normal. I hope the woman who was raped is doing okay (she’s not here anymore, and I don’t know what is happening). Sorry for the novel, but I wanted to let everyone know what was going on.
Edit: I think the reason everyone was so mad at me in the original post was because I was acting like I was the victim, even though obviously that was not the case. That is some of that addict mentality, that I’m still working on with my sponsor.
koalajoey on September 27th, 2018 at 17:24 UTC »
As a former junkie with felony convictions trying to lead a normal life, shit like this terrifies me. I have convictions for possession and theft and I feel like if anything ever goes missing at some job or there’s a problem, I’m gonna pay for it. Even though I’m trying so hard to work hard and get stuff right.
In fact I disclosed to a recent job I had felonies during the hiring process, that those felonies were possession and theft. I quit another job to go work there. They called me in earlier this week and said they got my background check back and people with possession charges can’t work there. I already was working there for two months!!! Sometimes alone with no other staff, because we were massively understaffed (it’s suppossd to be 5:1 sleeping, 3:1 awake but that’s a joke). They said I didn’t say I had a possession charge but I sure as shit did because this is exactly what I wanted to avoid. Now I feel like I was up front, they knew people with possession charges would get flagged by human services, and they tricked me into quitting my other job cause they needed somebody right away for two months, and now that they’ve managed to get some other people hired, fuck me. Nevermind that I couldn’t even find my coworkers sometimes, and I’d have all ten kids climbing all over me with no help. Sorry tangent but the judgement can be real.
theletterqwerty on September 27th, 2018 at 16:01 UTC »
The way that thread unfolded is a case study on how to learn from mistakes and grow as individuals.
No, not LAOP, he did nothing wrong; I'm talking about us.
riningear on September 27th, 2018 at 14:49 UTC »
I had a whole conversation with my boyfriend about this yesterday and the more we chatted, the more things didn't add up for the care center.
Namely: If they really were taking DNA tests to investigate, why weren't the police involved or mentioned, with no warrants handed? It felt like, if there was no police, they were trying to keep it out of public eye.
And to me, the "we were trying to pressure one dude" excuse sounds like the employers trying to cover their asses about what could be a potentially illegal practice in many states (and in California, it seems) while trying to excuse their shitty behavior.
And why the fuck are y'all so eager to give your DNA to your employers, let alone an unnamed DNA processing company? Between drug giants swooping into the DNA testing industry and general controversies about tech and biometric privacy, including those involving police and surveillance concerns, the dude absolutely was within reason to be paranoid.