[Colorado] Guy threatening my family to my mother : legaladvice

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My mom asked me to get a bunch of viruses off her computer today. Found a folder titled, "Sins of my Children" and opened it. Found weird poetry and IRC chat logs of some guy offering to kill my wife and me. They seemed to be in some sort of online relationship. Half the chat was sappy love promises, the rest was her telling him about all the ways my brother and I have wronged her. Nearly everything was a lie. The accusations were insane. She gave this guy my address and a shit ton of personally identifying information about me and my wife. And he said he knew people who could "take care of us" for her, to show his devotion or shit. She agreed and there was a conversation negotiating prices.

I understand he's probably bullshitting but the whole thing was deranged. The dude also doesn't live too far from me either based on what he said, a few hours drive. My wife is pregnant (this was one of my many "sins" apparently having my own child means I'm replacing my mom) and I am not risking of some psycho who knows my address showing up here if I can help it.

Is this serious enough to be reportable to cops or would they laugh me out of the station? Does it constitute a threat legally speaking? I took screenshots that I emailed to myself, so I have evidence if so. How should I deal with this?

eatpaste on September 3rd, 2018 at 00:33 UTC »

some people call the cops on 8yr old kids and some don't call the cops on stuff like this and i'd just like both groups to talk to each other

Caprina22 on September 2nd, 2018 at 22:36 UTC »

Dear lord. I feel so sorry for LAOP. I understand his confusion, though. Your brain *really, really* doesn't want to believe that someone who you know and love would hurt you, so it pretends it isn't happening for a while. It may sink in after he talks to the police, or it may sink in if he is attacked or if he confronts his mother and she admits it, or it may not sink in for years if at all. It's a really surreal feeling, because there is a part of your brain that is screaming at you in terror but the rest of you is extremely calm, and feels like you're wrapped in fog or a thick blanket. The little part of him that's screaming is why he posted here. The fog is why he can't figure out what to do, or how serious this really is.

People really shouldn't make fun of posters like this, because they can't help it and it's not helpful to make fun of them for not knowing what to do. I see it a lot here on BOLA and on LA, and it makes me sad because I know exactly how the LAOPs feel and it's really not fun.

michapman2 on September 2nd, 2018 at 22:36 UTC »

The 2018 Worst Parents of the Year race is really heating up.

In all seriousness, I’m not sure how LAOP really moves on from this. Reporting to the cops is a no-brainer, but I can’t imagine dealing with knowing that my mom spends a lot of time each day fantasizing about murdering my entire family. It's not something that anyone should want to expect, and while the LAOP is trying to convince himself that it's some kind of weird joke or a fantasy I think deep down he realizes that it probably isn't.

(And yeah, relationship with mom will be a lot more distant now.....)

Yeah no kidding. I’d be pretty distant too.